My [now] boyfriend posted this facebook note on Saturday, April 12, 2008 at 5:01am:
“…That made me look back on my own guy-girl problems. Which also made me think of my set beliefs vs. other set beliefs. After many times of rejection at some point in my life(along with some successes too, but too few to matter), I made a few observations about getting into relationships. I observed that liking another person is totally doable. However, if the other party does not want you to like them, then all your efforts are pretty much wasted, and you wasted all this time liking someone who would not even like you back. Thus… I suppose I developed habits of juggling. But… apparently doing that tends to become a turn off for girls that might have had any interest in you. Such a delima lives everyday. There must be a way to find out if one is interested in one without committing so much emotional strength. Afterall, why does it matter before the 2 become an official pair? Isn’t it most important to love(or like) after it is confirmed that both parties are willing to love (or like)? I also wonder what other factors are keeping me from completing my new years resolution. Maybe I am too unserious most times? Maybe because of what I say sometimes? Heh, hell, maybe its my turn to “take a girl-break.”
The note was met with 9 comments, one of which my own:
“Dude, I can totally empathize with the first half of your note. When I related my personal conflict of not knowing what to do with my life, my advisor comically stated that I was going through an “identity crisis”. Go figure. Anyhoo, I’m sure that everyone has some kind of blueprint, but no one really knows what ultimately lies ahead. Just take it one step at a time until you find your calling.
As for the bit about girls…just bask in the glory of knowing that you can flirt/check out as many girls as you please…while the other taken suckers watch on the sidelines. The right girl will come in time.”
April 13, 2008 at 12:05pm
At the time, I was in a previous relationship without the slightest regard for him, other than as a friend…we barely knew each other.
We’ve been together for 1 year and almost 5 months now, and I’ve just begun to understand how important it is to be in the right place at the right time
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